Uniqueness in Singleness
Seasons in life are inevitable: whether it’s becoming an adolescent or an adult, getting married or becoming a parent. These transitions are marked by a specific age or a concrete life change. But there is another transition that takes place, though no outward change is visible: when one goes from “student” to “single.”
And while there are some specific obstacles to being single, there are also some amazing advantages for the Christian who is not married. We know Paul celebrates the single man and woman, citing that the unmarried one is concerned about the Lord and how he/she can please the Lord as opposed to the married one who is concerned with worldly things, namely a spouse (1 Corinthians 7:32-33). He says, “This I say for your own benefit...to secure undistracted devotion to the Lord” (v. 35). What follows are just a few of my reflections on the uniqueness of singleness.
I get to love the Lord without distraction
This takes on many forms, whether in my personal worship, giving, prayer, etc. My life of worshiping Christ is not limited by the responsibility of caring for others. It is not unusual for me to spend significant time in the Word Saturday mornings--I have no husband or children to attend to, so my time and heart are freed up to devote to the Lord.
I get to serve the Lord without constraints
I have a greater amount of discretionary time that I can apply to serving God in the church. Being out of my home multiple nights in a week for the sake of ministry is not just a possibility, it’s a joy.
I get to invest in the younger generation
I think this is my favorite. We all can and should be investing in the next generation. But I see singleness as a unique time to do this. Because of the freedom of time and responsibility, I have the opportunity to invest deeply into my nieces and nephews, collegians at church, and students at school.
I get to see the sufficiency of Christ tangibly
Maybe more than any other characteristic, this one is often most painful, and yet also proves to be the most sanctifying. When faced with temptations, trials, disappointing outcomes, unmet expectations, etc., I have nowhere else to turn but to Christ. While this should be the life of every Christian, I see it as a unique blessing in singleness that I cannot turn to a husband for that support/fulfillment.
I don’t suppose I would have come to recognize these distinct characteristics of singleness if I was not blessed with many friends who are living in the equally joyous seasons of marriage and/or parenthood. But because of this contrast, I see my unique ability to meet with a younger gal after school, while my married friends are home preparing meals for their husbands. Or to drive to ministry gatherings, and instead of being distracted by another person in the car, my aloneness actually turns my attention toward the Lord in prayer. Granted, there are burdens in singleness I don’t pretend to skip over. But these are a few of the benefits I see and want to fully appreciate.