Singleness

When I was a college student, I had expectations that my life would look a certain way in a few years – I would work until I got married and then be a stay-at-home mom. Well, neither am I married nor am I a mom. Instead, I am a full-time employee in the business world. Is it hard? Sometimes. Do I wish my life took the path I expected? Sometimes, yes. So how do I, as a Christian woman, honor the Lord in my work when my heart’s desire has always been to be a wife and a mom and not a career woman? Let me start by saying that this is not intended to be a “woe is me” article, rather, it is meant to encourage each of you to pursue faithfulness in whatever season the Lord has you.


The Lord has taught me much over the years, and when I struggle in my singleness or in my job, these truths help set my mind back on Christ. First off, I am not defined by my marital status or my job. Rather, as a believer in the Lord Jesus Christ, my identity is in Christ alone. I am His child. This is true of all believers, regardless of circumstances. Secondly, in God’s sovereignty, He has given me the circumstances I have, and they are for my good and His glory (Romans 8:28). Circumstances can and do change, but God does not promise me a husband or kids. If I wait around for those things to come about in my life, I miss out on what God has for me now. Thirdly, I work for the Lord (Colossians 3:23-24). Yes, I do have an employer to whom I am accountable, but ultimately, I work for an audience of one – my Savior! I serve the Lord through how I perform my job and how I interact with my co-workers and clients. This is not menial nor insignificant! I get to be a light in my workplace!


So, practically, what does this look like? Well, I work hard.  I strive for excellence in all I do. I submit to authority. I strive to be a woman of my word. I build relationships with people. But none of this pleases the Lord unless I am walking dependently on His Spirit. So this requires prayer in the morning before I start my day as well as prayer throughout the day as I am tempted to do these things in my own strength or for my own glory. When I am confronted with a difficult person or situation and I am tempted to complain, it is the gospel that spurs me on to love that person. Certainly, I do not do these things perfectly. Even as I write this, I am challenged to pursue these things to a greater degree in this next week. And with that, I urge you, dear friends, rest in God’s sovereignty for your lives and pursue faithfulness in all you do.

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Brandi V.

Senior StaffFBCCM Staff